09-25-2004, 12:56 AM
My wife and I adopted our son. We were in the room when he was born and took him home from the hospital. He is now 4. We still keep in touch with his birth mom. He has a 1/2 brother from her. He is not aware yet of the adoption. We discuss it, but he does not yet understand. It will always be a part of who he is.
He actually has a few 1/2 siblings from the married guy his birthmom was sleeping with too. However we have no contact with him. Our lawyers tried to get him to sign papers and he ran a few times. Whatever.
The point is, I don't think that it is a good idea to keep it a secret. I my experience most people who have tried to hide it have been unsuccessful at it and it has caused major problems.
His birthmom is not involved in his life other than an occasional phone call to say hi, but he just thinks of her as another of mommy and daddy's friends.
He actually has a few 1/2 siblings from the married guy his birthmom was sleeping with too. However we have no contact with him. Our lawyers tried to get him to sign papers and he ran a few times. Whatever.
The point is, I don't think that it is a good idea to keep it a secret. I my experience most people who have tried to hide it have been unsuccessful at it and it has caused major problems.
His birthmom is not involved in his life other than an occasional phone call to say hi, but he just thinks of her as another of mommy and daddy's friends.
I know what you're thinking now. You think we're all gay, don't you? Think we're all just a bunch of deviant lifestyle-living same-sex having motherfuckers, am I right?
