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SanDog Wrote:Your boyfriend is smart. He knows this troll wants to get in your pants, or at least would jump at the chance given a shot, and is tryinig to prevent it from happening. It has to do with insecurity, which will ultimately lead you cheating on him, thus proving he was right all along.
Jealousy and insecurity build self fulfilling prophecies.
I just told him no, well I text messaged him. In my head it's just wrong, even though I was not planning on doing anything bad. But the thing is I would do this without telling my boyfriend, which I can't do that. Thanks.
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fem Wrote:I just told him no, well I text messaged him. In my head it's just wrong, even though I was not planning on doing anything bad. But the thing is I would do this without telling my boyfriend, which I can't do that. Thanks.
No problem. But you gotta realize now that the boyfriend is the one in the wrong. The fact that he feels the way he does is crap for you. Don't get me wrong, the friend still wants to tap your ass, but you can control that, if want to be friends. If he really wants to be your friend he will respect it. But he will always wait for the chance to hit that.
Guy/Girl friendships are some fucked up shit.
By the way this is not the same as casual work friendships. But when you start going out, hanging out, having lunch, that kind of thing, is when the problems can arise..
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SanDog Wrote:No problem. But you gotta realize now that the boyfriend is the one in the wrong. The fact that he feels the way he does is crap for you. Don't get me wrong, the friend still wants to tap your ass, but you can control that, if want to be friends. If he really wants to be your friend he will respect it. But he will always wait for the chance to hit that.
Guy/Girl friendships are some fucked up shit.
By the way this is not the same as casual work friendships. But when you start going out, hanging out, having lunch, that kind of thing, is when the problems can arise..
Yeah, he called me back and was totally fine with it. My boyfriend has always been insecure. He's had some bad experiences in life that have made him that way. He has no reason not to trust me though. I can't stand most girls, cause they are backstabbers, but guys wanna tap that ass if you're friends with them. Some don't, but that's rare. I can tell this guy wants to hook it up with me, ain't gonna happen though. I can't stop talking to him either because he's my Insurance Agent he gives me badass hook-ups.
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Husband and Father to the rescue ! Ummm if your BF isn't cool with it he needs to be reaffirmed that you love him. If he is jealous and you give him no reason to be...do you really want to live that way for the rest of your life. "Sometimes good friends besides the immediate physical attraction works out to be the soulmate for life !"
If per se you are going out to a club in heels and a miniskirt and makeup well ...... sounds like an unhappy pair to begin with. I'm not putting anyone down but I include my Wife in almost every aspect of my life and if I'm busy she can go and do most anything without me. We also don't believe in "Girls Nite out" or "a nite with the guys", that to us is a dying relationship. I would just tell him you are going out with .... and are going ....and will be back at ..... ! If that doesn't fly with him well insecurity isn't a good foundation !
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I've heard the insecurities/cheating thing a lot.
So what do insecurities have to do with cheating?
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fem Wrote:I've heard the insecurities/cheating thing a lot.
So what do insecurities have to do with cheating?
If I am cheating, I figure that you might be too. Makes me insecure. "If I can do it, so can she, so I gotta watch her like a hawk."
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fem Wrote:I've heard the insecurities/cheating thing a lot.
So what do insecurities have to do with cheating?
Insecurity comes from a previous bad relationship....been cheated on or lied to before...
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His self-confidence is not alleviated by your affection alone. He need his ego boosted constantly by women so he will cheat to get it. In short.
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