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Anyone have any ideas on how to explain to a 7 year old that his mom died from a drug overdose? It happened a few months ago, but we're just not finding out the cause and he wants to know. We're not sure what to tell him.
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bam Wrote:Anyone have any ideas on how to explain to a 7 year old that his mom died from a drug overdose? It happened a few months ago, but we're just not finding out the cause and he wants to know. We're not sure what to tell him.
Tough one. At 7, I'd be inclined to just say "we don't know why." My aunt committed suicide when I was 9, and that's what they told me. However, in this case, he might be mad when he gets older and finds out that you lied to him. I would play in the mental illness spin: mommy was sick and wasn't thinking properly. She took too much medicine because her brain wasn't working properly. Something like that.
Snarg might have some good advice on this one.
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You've come to the right place for this?
Took too much medicine and she got sick.The end.
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We've explained the too much medicine part, but now he wants to know why she was taking medicine and what she was taking it for (he's too smart for his own good a lot of the time). We don't really want to say she was doing a speedball, you know? He knows she had problems (we just never elaborated on what problems they were) but at this point he keeps wanting to know more and more and it's like nothing we tell him is satisfying his curiosity. We can't lie to him, we do know that. I don't know. Just not sure how to satisfy his curiosity without telling him too much.
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bam Wrote:We've explained the too much medicine part, but now he wants to know why she was taking medicine and what she was taking it for (he's too smart for his own good a lot of the time). We don't really want to say she was doing a speedball, you know? He knows she had problems (we just never elaborated on what problems they were) but at this point he keeps wanting to know more and more and it's like nothing we tell him is satisfying his curiosity. We can't lie to him, we do know that. I don't know. Just not sure how to satisfy his curiosity without telling him too much.
Chances are, even if you told him point blank, he still wouldn't be satisfied. It sounds more like he is questionning death. As in "why did this happen?" not necessarily "why did MY MOM die."
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Banana Wrote:Tough one. At 7, I'd be inclined to just say "we don't know why." My aunt committed suicide when I was 9, and that's what they told me. However, in this case, he might be mad when he gets older and finds out that you lied to him. I would play in the mental illness spin: mommy was sick and wasn't thinking properly. She took too much medicine because her brain wasn't working properly. Something like that.
Snarg might have some good advice on this one.
my kid was only three when her mom died
plus we lived on a farm, so death was not a new thing for her
at seven, it would have been much tougher for all of us
i guess i would go with, "your mother was a really good mom, and she loved you, but she had some serious problems she could not overcome"
good luck with this impossible situation
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Why was mommy taking medicine?
Have you ever taken medicine?Its freaking fun.But seriously kid don't over do it.
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Since its dear Abby day here how bout this conundrum..
I know of a guy who got a sex change and they had to explain it to his grand kids who are in first or second grade.How would you break that to a kid?
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BIRD33 Wrote:Since its dear Abby day here how bout this conundrum..
I know of a guy who got a sex change and they had to explain it to his grand kids who are in first or second grade.How would you break that to a kid?
That's hard for an adult to swallow. I think with this one, you justhave to say "gramps decided he wanted to be a woman." Ugh. Why would he do that as a older adult? I mean, really?
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I like how my 3 year old thinks:
"Howcome I have no grandpas?"
Me: Because they died.
Kid: Like the incy winsy spider?
Me: Yes
Kid: HAHAHAHAHA!
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lets not overlook one important issue.
bam, is that you in your av?
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BIRD33 Wrote:Very weird situation.Guy was my sisters soccer coach growing up.When my parents got divorced I thought the guy was trying to date my mother.Boy was I under the wrong impression.My father hated the guy because he was an arrogant prick and I can still remember coming home after my parents were divorced(living with pops) and telling him that so and so was getting a sex change.I will never forget the smile on my dads face.
I know the guy\girls daughter took it very hard.If I could tell you why he really did it I wouldnt be working in the construction industry.I think they glossed over it like hey, pop pop is now grandmom but I've got to think the kids are asking some brutal questions that have no easy answers.
Honestly, it kind of pisses me off that people can do that with kids or grandkids in the picture. As far as I know, to get a sex change, you have to be living your life as that sex. How did he pull that one off in front of the grandkids ?
I mean, I'm all for people living out the life they feel is right, but couldn't he have stopped short of the sex change? Like what? He's...she's gonna go nail dudes now?
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BIRD33 Wrote:I think when it initially went down the heshe's kids stopped talking to himher for a while but the grand kids still asked about him.He probably lived as a woman at this time.I think he went to Canada to get his dick cut off and to have a vagina installed but I may be wrong on that.Guygirls a millionaire so I think its easier to make it right when you can throw boat loads of cash around.
Its totally bizarre(obviously) but I think he's a woman now who still like women.He was a lesbo trapped in a mans body.
I've always thought it was kind of a mental illness thing but some people get mad when you say that and equate it to being gay and how its just how the persons brain is wired so its normal.
It is actually a mental disorder though (a classified one), whereas being gay is not one.
http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/gender...sorder.htm
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