[Banana]

Someone once told me that the final act of growing up is forgiving ones parents which makes sense to me because they are after all only human and arent some perfect person because they are a parent.That being said a lot of my fears about having kids of my own are wrapped up in not wanting to be a burden or an inconsiderate asshole like my mother is to my sister and I to my own children.Its almost like she's leading by example meaning don't follow her example unless you want to be an ass.

I'm going to sound like a retard here, but it wasn't until I actually became a parent that I was able to forgive my parents. Sadly, that meant it was too late as they were both gone by that time. But, having kids really makes you understand why your parents did they things they did, in large part. It's like this light bulb moment where you can't hold it against them anymore.

That said, I know a lot of kids who have never felt burdened by their parents. Some parents are quite normal. Maybe you will be too.