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A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
I work for a small health system in the physician recruiting department. We're located at the main corporate office, but are in a suite by ourselves - me and my two middle aged bosses. There's only ever been one young, single guy I've seen around here who was half-way interesting. He worked in Finance...we went out a couple times, but he was too faggy for my taste.
But then, there are the married men. B) I know it's wrong, but dang...a couple of them are cute. There's this one, who's got the most beautiful eyes. He works in Assurance & Compliance...Craig. :wub: We don't often have the opportunity to interact, but when we do, I get all nervous and geeky and I swear I caught him looking at my boobs!
The question is: just how evil is it to have affairs with married guys? And, if I decide it's not too evil, how do I go about it? I've never been good at the initiator role, much less when I am unsure of the other person's interest level. Just being friendly isn't cutting it...hypothetically, what do I do?
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Suicide Jim - 03-09-2004
get 'im drunk, do what you wanna do, and you can leave with a clear conseince.... <_< maybe that's not the best advice but it's all i got.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
Well, I've never seen him in a social situation, ie outside work. I only see him about once a month at work, if that often.
I've been conjuring up scenarios in my head about stopping by his office, and him just ordering me to my knees...but I don't think that's going to happen. He's a bit shy, I think.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - War - 03-09-2004
to live is to be disapointed.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Velvet - 03-09-2004
Im not sure thats the right thing to do .. sorry but there could be kids involved and it would hurt them . Kids dont deserve that ...and think about it if he does that with you then your not the first and that means if you end up together he will just do the same to you . Im sure you deserve alot better than someones cheating husband .
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - lad - 03-09-2004
craig's a jammy bastard, and stoney..... get on your knees NOW
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Jacob THE Poo - 03-09-2004
1. Relationships with fellow workers is a bad idea (except for me and my wife--I was her boss)
2. Going after a married guy is just plain wrong. It would be wrong if he asked you out and you accepted. It is exponentially more wrong for you to do the asking.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Beaucephus - 03-09-2004
Woman you ain't going to like this much but if the dude is married, then I would say to leave him alone. If you guys started throwing down and his wife found out about it, then it would probably ruin a lot of lives. Hardly worth it if you ask me.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by velvet@Mar 8 2004, 04:26 PM<sigh> Yea...I know.
Im not sure thats the right thing to do .. sorry but there could be kids involved and it would hurt them . Kids dont deserve that ...and think about it if he does that with you then your not the first and that means if you end up together he will just do the same to you . Im sure you deserve alot better than someones cheating husband .
I guess I'm just trying to liven up my day by coming up with exciting scenarios...and the only dudes around here are married! No fair!
Oh well... <_<
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - leeman - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by Stoney+Mar 8 2004, 10:28 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Stoney @ Mar 8 2004, 10:28 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-velvet@Mar 8 2004, 04:26 PM<sigh> Yea...I know.
Im not sure thats the right thing to do .. sorry but there could be kids involved and it would hurt them . Kids dont deserve that ...and think about it if he does that with you then your not the first and that means if you end up together he will just do the same to you . Im sure you deserve alot better than someones cheating husband .
I guess I'm just trying to liven up my day by coming up with exciting scenarios...and the only dudes around here are married! No fair!
Oh well... <_< [/b][/quote]
I'm not married ...
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - minorthreat - 03-09-2004
I avoid them unless no one will find out.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by leeman@Mar 8 2004, 04:29 PMMhhmm, and on another continent, I do believe.
I'm not married ...
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Beaucephus - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by leeman+Mar 8 2004, 03:29 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(leeman @ Mar 8 2004, 03:29 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><sigh> Yea...I know.Quote:Originally posted by Stoney@Mar 8 2004, 10:28 PM
<!--QuoteBegin-velvet@Mar 8 2004, 04:26 PM
[b] Im not sure thats the right thing to do .. sorry but there could be kids involved and it would hurt them . Kids dont deserve that ...and think about it if he does that with you then your not the first and that means if you end up together he will just do the same to you . Im sure you deserve alot better than someones cheating husband .
I guess I'm just trying to liven up my day by coming up with exciting scenarios...and the only dudes around here are married! No fair!
Oh well... <_< [/b] I'm not married ...
[/b][/quote]Damn smooth operator. B)
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - leeman - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by Stoney+Mar 8 2004, 10:30 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Stoney @ Mar 8 2004, 10:30 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-leeman@Mar 8 2004, 04:29 PMMhhmm, and on another continent, I do believe.
I'm not married ...
[/b][/quote]Well ...hmmm ....
Well ........ D'oh!!!!! :blink:
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Ironcandle - 03-09-2004
Holy crap.
I wouldn't do it. Once that bridge is crossed, you can't come back.
If he gets too nervous after the deed is done, your job may be in danger. You may start reading things into his actions that are not there, when he asks you to perform a task. Work and relationships become muddied and that makes for an uncomfortable workplace.
If the wife becomes suspicious or finds out, one of you is gone. There is also the repercussions of a divorce on other people. Are there kids involved? How would you feel if you found out that they were having to visit Daddy every other week because you liked him and he couldn't keep it together.
Disease and pregnancy are ALWAYS a problem with casual flings. You never find out until some of them for years down the road. Some of the crap that is out there is PERMANENT. There are protections, but they do not seem like they are worth it in this case.
ALL men look at ALL boobs. That is a law of nature, not an indication of intent.
Good luck.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
Jeez...you guys are no fun.
Ok, so let's change the question to: how the heck does a single woman get laid in this day and age? Cause I know one who's about to die from sexual neglect.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Jacob THE Poo - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by Stoney@Mar 8 2004, 03:35 PMYou've got to be kidding.
Jeez...you guys are no fun.
Ok, so let's change the question to: how the heck does a single woman get laid in this day and age? Cause I know one who's about to die from sexual neglect.
Go somewhere. Stand there. You'll get offered dick.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - St0ney - 03-09-2004
:mad: Don't I wish it were that easy.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Ironcandle - 03-09-2004
Quote:Originally posted by Stoney@Mar 8 2004, 04:35 PMNormally, in the South, a female can just say, "I'm sooooo drunk!". Then, it is pick and choose.
Jeez...you guys are no fun.
Ok, so let's change the question to: how the heck does a single woman get laid in this day and age? Cause I know one who's about to die from sexual neglect.
A 'What Do I Do' Scenario - Velvet - 03-09-2004
Your kidding right .. There are guys all over killing themselves to get laid .. Just go out clubbing . But then you will want a guy that looks halfway decent to .