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Ask a Banana - ncbikwhore - 07-23-2004

What is the best ways to get feces stains out of pantlegs?

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by ncbikwhore@Jul 22 2004, 03:23 PM
What is the best ways to get feces stains out of pantlegs?

I am a psychologist, not Martha Stewart. :angry:

Ask a Banana - ncbikwhore - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by banana+Jul 22 2004, 10:32 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(banana @ Jul 22 2004, 10:32 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-ncbikwhore@Jul 22 2004, 03:23 PM
What is the best ways to get feces stains out of pantlegs?

I am a psychologist, not Martha Stewart. :angry: [/b][/quote]
Lot of help you are then.

Ask a Banana - Beaucephus - 07-23-2004

Ok here's one for ya.

In coming weeks/month's I am going to be reunited with my two sons whom I have not seen in 8 years. I am in the pre-stages of custody battle right now and at the very worst they think I will get them one way or another. I had mentioned this before but to summarize, their mother moved out with another man about 9 years ago and after about a year or so she took up with him and left with the kids to Saudi Arabia. No notice to the me, the courts, nothing. Well a month ago I get a call and the bitch died. Now here husband is suing me for child support (which he has in ice cube's chance in hell of getting) and also for termination of my parental rights. Now that you have the basics here is my question.

The boys are 10 & 12 now and don't know me from Adam. When I do finally get to talk to them they are going to want some answers as to where I have been and what happened. Should I let them know their mom was a fucking ruthless cunt by telling them the truth about what she did?? Or should I just shun the question until they get older. Kids that age ain't dumb. I am dying to tell them the truth because they deserve it. However, I know it is wrong to talk badly about the other parent in a divorce because it puts the kids in the middle. She is dead now though so there ain't no fucking middle. He is just as much to blame as she was and I want to hang his ass out to dry with them. I just don't know how I going to handle the situation. Help Doctor Nana :|

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Ok Beau, are they going to continue to see this *other* guy? That's important.
But on a basic level, you are in a position where they need stability and support. You are in a position where, unfortunately, you have a lot to prove. You will need to invest a lot of time getting to know them, and making sure they feel safe and that they can trust you. Despite your feelings, you need to foster their grief by encouraging them to talk about the positive things about their mother. This will be difficult for you. But, it will pay off. Once they have learned to trust you and have grieved appropriately (during which time they will also mature and age), you can start to tell them about what happened. If it comes up before then (they ask you specific questions), give them specific answers. They deserve to know......you don't need to hide anything, but you need to keep your bias out of it. Answer factually, not with emotion. They will appreciate the truth as long as it is not emotionally charged - they will not understand that until they are much older. Don't be vague with them, but use a filter about how much they really need to know.
Good luck. Smile

Ask a Banana - minorthreat - 07-23-2004

What really is my fucking problem?

Ask a Banana - Beaucephus - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by banana@Jul 22 2004, 04:46 PM
Ok Beau, are they going to continue to see this *other* guy?  That's important. 
But on a basic level, you are in a position where they need stability and support.  You are in a position where, unfortunately, you have a lot to prove. You will need to invest a lot of time getting to know them, and making sure they feel safe and that they can trust you.  Despite your feelings, you need to foster their grief by encouraging them to talk about the positive things about their mother.  This will be difficult for you.  But, it will pay off.  Once they have learned to trust you and have grieved appropriately (during which time they will also mature and age), you can start to tell them about what happened.  If it comes up before then (they ask you specific questions), give them specific answers. They deserve to know......you don't need to hide anything, but you need to keep your bias out of it.  Answer factually, not with emotion.  They will appreciate the truth as long as it is not emotionally charged -  they will not understand that until they are much older. Don't be vague with them, but use a filter about how much they really need to know. 
Good luck. 

MY attorney is fairly confident that I will get custody allowing him visitation of the boys. Understand, he was the one who was the driving force behind all of this. According to my inlaws, he wouldn't let my ex allow the kids to have any contact with me whatsoever. I am told by my former inlaws that he was very controlling over my ex. He supposedly treated the youngest well and my older one like shit. THe older one doesn't like him at all but the younger one thinks of him as dad. I have every intention of telling them the truth if they ask me. When this happens if the older doesn't want to see him anymore then he can consider that to be a done deal. Because if he ever tries to pressure him in anyway after this is all set. This time I'll kill the mother fucker. After the things I have been told about how he has treated him :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: The younger one can visit as he please though. I actually have doubts that he is mine anyway. but I am leaving that out of this proceeding for the benefit of the kids and will continue to do so. Thanks for the advice. Wink

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 03:58 PM
What really is my fucking problem?

You've had penis envy from a young age. Also, you have a desire to make an impression on others. It's called "attention seeking." You hide behind a devil-may-care attitude and by pretending you don't like most people. You put considerable effort into questionning other peoples motives, but really, you're trying to figure out how best to make an impression on others. A large part of your strategy is to align yourself with a select few others who, while making impressions on others, largely don't do so for attention seeking purposes.

It's either that, or you're a closet homo.
Big Grin

Ask a Banana - minorthreat - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by banana+Jul 22 2004, 11:04 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(banana @ Jul 22 2004, 11:04 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 03:58 PM
What really is my fucking problem?

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Why is always about gay shit?

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 04:06 PM

Why is always about gay shit?

Ask a Banana - minorthreat - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by banana+Jul 22 2004, 11:11 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(banana @ Jul 22 2004, 11:11 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 04:06 PM

Why is always about gay shit?

Homosexuality is the root of most problems. Plus, most guys here are so stauntly publicly homophobic, it's telling how much they squirm when homosexuality is mentioned.
Methinks thou doth protest too much. [/b][/quote]
No way! You should stop by trolltrain.com It's full of gays. I hang there quite a bit.

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 04:14 PM
No way! You should stop by trolltrain.com It's full of gays. I hang there quite a bit.

What makes you think I don't stop by there frequently?

Ask a Banana - minorthreat - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by banana+Jul 22 2004, 11:18 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(banana @ Jul 22 2004, 11:18 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 04:14 PM
No way! You should stop by trolltrain.com It's full of gays. I hang there quite a bit.

What makes you think I don't stop by there frequently? [/b][/quote]
Rolleyes

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by minorthreat+Jul 22 2004, 04:19 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(minorthreat @ Jul 22 2004, 04:19 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>
Quote:Originally posted by banana@Jul 22 2004, 11:18 PM
<!--QuoteBegin-minorthreat@Jul 22 2004, 04:14 PM
[b] No way! You should stop by trolltrain.com It's full of gays. I hang there quite a bit.

What makes you think I don't stop by there frequently? [/b]

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And? Didn't say I participated.

Ask a Banana - mad_hatter - 07-23-2004

Wow. Now I am scared to ask what my problem is Confused

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by mad_hatter@Jul 22 2004, 04:40 PM
Wow. Now I am scared to ask what my problem is

I'd have to ask you a lot of questions, MadHatter. Wink

Ask a Banana - mad_hatter - 07-23-2004

as long as you're not charging by the hour, shoot

Ask a Banana - Banana - 07-23-2004

Quote:Originally posted by mad_hatter@Jul 22 2004, 04:45 PM
as long as you're not charging by the hour, shoot

Well, is your problem "what's my problem?"

Ask a Banana - mad_hatter - 07-23-2004

That, and if you could explain that one rash I'd appreciate it :unsure:

Ask a Banana - VitaminE - 07-23-2004

Analyse Vit E! What the fuck is wrong with that crazy bastard??